FAQs: How a Coaching or Mentoring Process
Is Structured
When people first enter a coaching or mentoring relationship . . .
. . . they often have questions about what to expect. This page answers several questions that people commonly ask about working with a coach or mentor. Clicking on any question reveals the answer in the panel below
► What does a coach or mentor expect of me?
► What can I expect of a coach or mentor?
► How do we get started? What happens first?
► How is our time together structured?
What does a coach or mentor expect of me?
What your executive coach or executive mentor wants from you first of all is honesty and candor — honesty about yourself and candor about how you feel. Be open about your fears and frustrations. Your dreams and aspirations. Your strengths and your limitations. Your executive coach's primary role is to help you overcome things that limit your effectiveness.
Second, your executive coach or mentor wants you to make a good faith effort. A coach will often nudge you out of your comfort zone and challenge you to stretch your wings. And no coach expects you to succeed perfectly the first few times you try something new. But your coach has a right to see a genuine effort from you.
Third, your executive coach will expect you to "do your homework." Executive coaches routinely make assignments to be completed between sessions. You may be asked to read an article or part of a book. Or to complete a written exercise or practice a new skill. Whatever it is, your coach will plan your next coaching session on the assumption that you have completed your assignment.
What can I expect of an executive coach or executive mentor?
First, you can expect absolute confidentiality. Just as you are being candid and honest with your coach, the coach reciprocates by holding everything you say in strictest confidence.
Second, your executive coach will faithfully protect proprietary information. Since executive coaching pointedly discusses your duties, roles, and responsibilities, "inside information" inevitably comes into the conversation. Your coach will always safeguard that information and prevent its disclosure to outside parties.
Third, you can expect honest feedback from your coach. In effect, you and your executive coach (or mentor) form a "feedback loop" in which open and forthright communication must prevail. The coach may praise one moment, prod the next, always with a goal of helping you achieve your best.
Fourth, you can expect your coach to hold you responsible for your own progress. Executive coaches and mentors provide tools, resources, and encouragement to support your progress. But ultimately you are the one who must make the changes that make a difference.
How do we get started? Where do we start first?
Your coach is likely to use the first session or two to become familiar with you, your position, and your responsibilities. Where companies do not have a standard practice of 360-degree reviews, your coach may ask permission to undertake one. Your coach may also ask you to complete questionnaires that provide clearer insight into your personality, work habits, and management style.
Out of these initial assessments, you and your coach will define a game plan that spells out the specific areas your coaching will address. That plan will usually look out three to six months. As your coaching relationship continues, game plan priorities will be periodically adjusted.
How is our time together structured?
Whether your coaching is face-to-face or by phone, most sessions will have a similar structure:
To accomplish all of this in the time allotted means that your executive coach will work diligently to keep the session " on target." This is not a time for idle chit-chat. Should the conversation begin to digress, your coach will pull it back on topic. If the digression has identified a topic that deserves fuller exploration, your executive coach is likely to recommend devoting special attention to it in a later session.
